Sara ist seit 3 Wochen auch nachts trocken, also jetzt komplett windelfrei.
Da kann man schon ganz schön stolz werden als Mama. Die beiden werden wirklich täglich größer.
Heute morgen wurden wir wieder mal um 8 geweckt, nicht nur von einer quietschfidelen Miia, sondern auch von Sara, die sich erstmal zu uns kuscheln wollte. Als ich sie bat ihren Schnuller zurück in ihr Bett zu bringen sagte sie, sie olle ihn nicht mehr. Ab heute kein Schnuller mehr, nicht mal mehr zum Schlafen.
Natürlich haben wir uns einige Male versichert ob sie das wirklich ernst meint, aber auch mittags war sie noch fest davon überzeugt. Also haben wir heute nachmittag ein kleines Geschenk gekauft, Sara hat nochmal versprochen dass sie es ernst meint und nicht weint beim Schlafen gehen und dann kam er, der Abend. Papa ist nicht da und Sara weint. Etwa eine Stunde lange habe ich alles versucht, gut Zureden, ermutigen, ein bisschen böse werden. Aber Sara ist einfach völlig durch und nicht zu beruhigen. Also haben wir gemeinsam beschlossen, das Geschenk wieder zurück zu geben und dafür doch mit Schnuller zu schlafen.
Ist ja eigentlich nicht schlimm, oder? Ich bin aber traurig und, viel schlimmer, enttäuscht. Ich weiss nicht mal so genau warum, ich weiss ja auch, dass es blödsinnig ist. Enttäuscht bin ich trotzdem.
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It's ok, sis. You know she's only three, that means it's to be expected that although she promises you not to want the Schnuller in the evening, she will want it when the time comes to go to sleep. I don't think you can really hold a three-year-old responsible for her promise, especially one made in the happy daylight and to be kept in the evening when she's tired anyway!
Perhaps a good idea would have been to get the present only when she has spent one night without the Schnuller. But I think she is soon ready to give it up, since it seems like she wants to already!
Just as a tip, a lot of people give the Schnuller away to "baby bunnies" or a new baby among friends etc because "the baby needs it more because it's so small". Then when the kid wants it back there's nothing to be done, the kid knows that it's gone, mom/dad can't just get it back. Perhaps for example a trip to the zoo to see some baby animals with some talk before that about how they need the Schnuller or something? You could maybe even talk with the people beforehand and agree with them that they'll take it and thank Sara personally? Well, that was just an idea and maybe me getting a bit carried away...
And when she goes to sleep without the Schnuller and wants to cry, try telling her it's okay to cry (she HAS lost something big in her life), console her etc. So don't think the crying is just her acting up, but that maybe she's really sad about it, kind of like she lost a favorite toy (or even a pet). Try seeing it just as something that she needs to be sad about for a while and let her do that. (Not saying that would have helped last night, just that you could try that in the future!)
Well, obviously I've never done it myself but I just wanted to help you (and don't take it as if I'm saying you're doing something wrong, because you're not!). You're my dear sis and I hate to hear you're not feeling good so I just want to help!
Oh Sirje. I know, it's ok ok that it's hard for her to hold what she promises, and I know it's important to cry and I know we probably should have bought the present only after she slept a night without the Schnuller. I'm also totally aware, that she is pretty far for her age in some points and that there is no hurry to get rid of the Schnuller.
I just thought that this would be as easy as getting rid of diapers at night. She just asked if she could try, I let her and she never again needed them. So I probably was a bit spoiled. :)
Yeah, and of course, I did let her cry, and I consoled her. I actually used every trick a mom has. Comforting, letting her cry, trying to make her think of something else, make her look forward for tomorrow, tell her how proud I am, until there was no other possibility then making her choose if she really prefers the Schnuller to the present.
I am pretty sure, that it might have worked if Daddy had been there yesterday. He is usually the one to take her to bed and she never likes it when he's not there.
Well, anyway she said it again today, so new try and a last chance to keep the present (since we couldn't return it today). We'll see...
An of course I don't get you wrong and thanks for your tips. :)
Yeah, I agree, I also think it has to do with Sebastian not being there. Otherwise it might have worked but that was maybe too much change in the bedtime routine for one evening. And of course I know you did your best and used every trick and I'm sure you were great! Anyway, since she wants to do it herself I am sure it will work soon! But try not to make too much of a number of it if it fails. Tell her it's ok if she isn't ready yet. (I like that little girl so much and don't want her to feel too bad about it! See, I'm just an aunt that wants to spoil her :P)
And anyways, as a lot of people here say about such things, never heard of anyone going to school with a Schnuller (or sleeping with one in university) so don't worry!
Plus just as a side note, I think the age when you take away the Schnulli might actually be somehow cultural since while in Italy we saw a lot of kids that would be in Finland considered far too old having one, so seemed to be normal there.
Ja, da merkt man, dass das "große" Mädchen eben doch erst 3 Jahre ist ...
Da darf man rationales Denken noch nicht zu sehr voraussetzen. Ich schätze, Sara wollte schon, aber ihre Gefühle haben sie dann im konkreten Fall doch übermannt. Schlafen gehen ist halt für Kinder noch ein Akt der Trennung von Eltern, vom Trubel des Tages etc., da fühlt sie sich auch ein wenig "klein", und da ist so'n Schnuller einfach Trost in dem Moment. Nimm's nicht persönlich von ihr. Ihr habt eine tolle, sehr vernünftige Tochter, mit ihren 3 Jahren schon richtig weit. Und sie liebt euch!
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